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Pamela Anderson Says Divorce From Tommy Lee Was The Hardest Time Of Her Life: 'I Was Devastated'

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Tommy Lee and Pamela Anderson during the 1995 GRAMMY Awards - A&M Party in Los Angeles, California, United States.  (Photo by Jeff Kravitz/FilmMagic, Inc)

Pamela Anderson with Tommy Lee at the 1995 Grammy Awards. (Photo: Jeff Kravitz/FilmMagic, Inc)

Pamela Anderson says her marriage to Tommy Lee was “ruined” by the release of her infamous sex tape.

In an excerpt from baywatch the new alum memoir, Love, Pamelaobtained by People magazine, Is it over there writes about falling in love with and marrying the drummer of Mötley Crüe in 1995. She said the theft and publicity of her stolen honeymoon tape put pressure and stress on their relationship and led to their dramatic split.

“My relationship with Tommy may have been the only time I was truly in love,” wrote Anderson, who was married to Lee from 1995 to 1998, followed by Kid Rock (2006-2007), Rick Salomon (2007-2008). , which was voided) and (2014-2015), Jon Peters (2020-2020, though not legally), and Dan Hayhurst (2020-2022).

After fleeing on a beach in Cancún shortly after the encounter – with the bride in a bikini and the groom in shorts – “we just wanted to have kids and be together forever”, the playboy cover star wrote. From that time, “We had fun and our rule was no rules.”

CANCUN, MEXICO - FEBRUARY 19: Pamela Anderson and Tommy Lee got married on February 19, 1995 on the beach in Cancun, Mexico as fans watch nearby.  (Photo by James Aylott/Getty Images)

Pamela Anderson and Tommy Lee get married on the beach in Cancun in February 2005. (Photo: James Aylott /Getty Images)

In the same year, a 54-minute home video made by the newlyweds was stolen from a safe in their home, edited down to eight minutes of sex scenes and distributed. They fought it for years in a lawsuit, but it was all over the internet. They never made any money from the sale.

“It ruined lives, starting with our relationship – and it’s inexcusable that people, to this day, think they can profit from such a terrible experience, let alone a crime,” wrote Anderson, who never watched and protected Hulu. Pam & Tommy for it is a retelling of last year’s story.

The stolen video put extra attention and unwanted stress on the couple, who were just trying to navigate the ups and downs of newlywed life. Anderson had a miscarriage in 1995. They had two sons: Brandon Thomas Lee, in 1996, and Dylan Jagger Lee, in 1997.

Actress Pamela Anderson Lee (left) looks on as husband, musician Tommy Lee holds their son, Brandon Thomas Lee, above the cement slab where Tommy Lee's rock group

Pamela Anderson looks on as her husband Tommy Lee holds their son Brandon as Mötley Crüe are inducted at Hollywood’s RockWalk in 1997. (Photo: Getty Images)

In 1998, Lee was arrested on spousal assault charges, with Anderson receiving an emergency protection order. He did a plea deal and was sentenced to 180 days in jail as well as community service.

In the book, Anderson wrote about the incident. She said as she held 7-week-old Dylan in her arms and 1-year-old Brandon playing nearby, “Tommy ripped Brandon off me and threw Dylan and me against the wall.” She said she panicked and called 911.

“Our hell has begun,” wrote Anderson, who filed for divorce the next day, citing irreconcilable differences. The divorce was finalized that year. (It was the second time she filed for divorce after rescinding a filing in 1996.)

“Tommy’s divorce was the lowest, lowest, hardest point of my life,” Anderson wrote. “I was devastated. I still couldn’t believe that the person I loved the most was capable of what had happened that night. We were both devastated, but I had to protect my babies.”

The famous pair eventually got back together after their divorce and Lee served his prison sentence. They were on and off, around her various other relationships, through the 2000s.

Tommy Lee and Pamela Anderson during Rokbar Hollywood Launch Party - Red Carpet at Rokbar in Los Angeles, California, United States.  (Photo by Jeff Kravitz/FilmMagic, Inc)

Tommy Lee and Pamela Anderson at the 2005 Rokbar Hollywood launch party. They continued to have a hot and cold romance after their divorce. In 2015, she called him “the love of my life. We had a wild and crazy start that was too much for both of us”. (Photo: Jeff Kravitz/FilmMagic, Inc)

As for their relationship today, she said they “come along every now and then”, adding that Lee, who is married to fourth wife Brittany Furlan, “is the father of my children and I am forever grateful.”

Anderson moved to her hometown of Ladysmith, British Columbia in 2020. A brief pandemic marriage to a construction worker, who was renovating her home, ended in early 2022. She said People she lives “a more romantic life now that I’m alone than in relationships… I’m sure it would be great if someone else was in my life and wanted the same thing, but I’ve never met them. them and there must be a balance.”